Educate.Motivate.Inspire: “More Vulnerable”

By Katie Carpenter

For those who don’t know, I coach our C2 kids class on the weekends.  On Saturday mornings I’m pretty sure my name is “CoachKatieCoachKatieCoachKatie”

One of my (yes, they are all mine for 1 hour a week) kids recently would get incredibly frustrated if he didn’t understand the movement immediately or didn’t already know it.  “I can’t do it” would come out of his mouth before he even tried and man would he get outwardly frustrated.  How many times do we tell ourselves that exact story either in the gym, at home, at work?

The behavior of this young human got me thinking.  How many times have I said to myself “I’ve always been bad at…” “I’ll never be good at….”  Why?  Because I try to work on it for a few days and when I don’t get the results I’m looking for I’m suddenly just not good at something?  Because I can stay consistent with my new idea for a few days but then external factors come into play and I can’t keep up with what I’ve told myself? What a cop out!  The reality is I wasn’t ready to put in the work in the area to be better at it, it’s easier to tell myself I’ll just never be good at it.

I’m still not great at (there I go again) holding myself accountable with internal positive talk.  This is one of my goals for this year.  I meet monthly with an accountability group formed by like minded people always looking to become better versions of ourselves.  As humans, we don’t want to disappoint others but typically have no problem disappointing ourselves.  These people call me out on my crap, we talk through each others barriers and most of the time it comes down to the fact that we’re our own barrier. 

What’s the story you are telling yourself?  What story do you want to be telling yourself?

Educate.Motivate.Inspire: ‘Make today your masterpiece’

This is something I tell the boys each and every single day before they head off to school. It may seem like overkill to tell an 11 and 6 year old to make today the best day of their lives, but it is a simple reminder to them and to myself that today is all we are guaranteed. 

It’s a simple mantra with a complex and deep meaning that can help all of us evaluate our priorities for the day. I am not asking you to live your life in fear that it might be your last day, but rather just a call to remember to focus on what you can control. 

Prioritize the “controllables” (your mindset and your response to events) to help drive you towards your goals. Those things that we can not control (our body, the weather, traffic, other peoples words/actions, etc) are not worth the time spent away from the controllable aspects.

As we move into 2019 I ask each of you to start each day with this statement: “Anything that happens to me today is in my best interest and it’s an opportunity to learn and grow”. If you truly embrace this growth mindset statement you will be able to make each day of this new year your masterpiece.